Today we're going to talk about stress at hypersensitive. How does it work? How to get rid of it? If you are hypersensitive, it will help you live happily with your hypersensitivity. Without the techniques I'm going to talk about in this article, you may wear out morally and physically (and even end up in burnout or depression!). Hypersensitive people suffer more often because of their high stress.
I am Paul de Connect The Dots And my hypersensitivity was detected more than ten years ago now. And today I share what I learned to help the little new ones.
NB: This article is the transcript of the video above
Stress in hypersensitive people
So how do you manage your stress when you're a hypersensitive person? It's a big question and you're not the only ones asking it. I went that way a while ago, too. I was a hyperstressed person. I'm still a little bit, we're not gonna lie to each other, but I manage to handle this stress so that he becomes much less disabled. And that's very convenient.
Why are many hypersensitive people stressed, and even many unhypersensitive people are stressed? It's because, in fact, we're never told at school how stress works. We're just introduced to him because we're stressed out about the exams. But we're not told how to work on it. Today you are lucky because I will explain. I'll give you the method to understand how stress works. It's really four very simple steps to understand, you'll see.
The problem of stress in hypersensitive people
But first, why is stress particularly problematic in hypersensitive people? Actually, we're too stressed.
Stress in neurotypes
Here, for example, the curve that I have represented represents the number of peaks of stress that there is for a normal person (called a neurotypical person) during a day. You can see down there everything's fine. Suddenly there's a stressful moment. Bim, it's going up. And then the stress goes down, then it goes up, it goes down, and so we alternate several peaks throughout the day.
Hypersensitivity and stress
In hypersensitive people, there are many more of these peaks of stress because since you are hypersensitive to the world you get more information.
And there are logically more that will stress us and stimulate our nervous system. As a result, we have much more stress peaks throughout the day. And after a while it's used.
It uses because it shoots at our nervous system. It shoots at our body and exhausts it. And in addition to all this, our brain will produce more cortisol throughout the day. Stress requires energy from our body to cope with it. And cortisol is a pure energy hormone. So the brain produces it to give us the energy to deal with this stress. Except that the cortisol normally has to have a peak in the morning to wake us up, and after its rate goes down all day so that we can fall asleep in the evening. As hypersensitive people have more stress all day long, they more often have small cortisol shoots and in the evening they sleep much less well because their rate is not really down. That's why hypersensitive people sleep badly. Also, they think too much and everyone before sleeping. We have nights that are less relaxing and the next day it's an even more suitable ground for new stress.
How stress works
But where does this problem come from? How does stress work? That's what we'll see now.
Where does the stress come from?
Already stress is something natural. He's here to help us in case of a problem, in case of aggression, to give us energy in the body. That's what we just saw. How's it going? It's linked to a whole hormone system. More details are given in mini hypersensitivity training. You can register. It's totally free. It would be a little long and complex enough for me to talk about it in this article. So if you're interested, go ahead.
When you are cavemen, this stress was used when there was a danger, when you are behind a bush and hop: a tiger with sword teeth! What do we do? There's stress. Except that today we are no longer men of Cro-Magnon and we are unlikely to find ourselves in front of a tiger with sword teeth (or other) in our everyday life. It happens very rarely to never say. Our way of life has evolved but not our brain. Stress production is still there. And our body gradually keeps all that stress that is not used, all that energy that is not used.
The process of anxiety in the body
So I go back to my story: how does it work?
We start with a starting situation, an element, a normal situation where everything is fine. We're not stressed.
Then there's a trigger, a disturbing element. It could be the sword-tooth tiger coming. What's going on? Stress gives us energy in the legs. That's why when you're stressed you can have the legs shaking a little. In fact energy goes first in the legs because the primary goal was to flee. We run in front of the sword teeth tiger, or he'll eat us.
Following this flight, there are two solutions, two things that can happen. The first is that the leak worked. We managed to leave faster than the tiger. As a result, we calm down, it's better. If not, the beast is still there, it continues to hunt.
There we go through the phase of struggle. That's why after the legs start to tremble you can have the muscles that contract: the head becomes red, you get a little upset. It's because the blood actually rises to muscle level. The jaw is closing. We switch to combat mode, fight mode. Following this struggle, two more solutions. The first one: we managed to beat the tiger, the stress calms down, it gets better. Otherwise, we submit.
This is the submission phase. We submit to animals. He's stronger than us. So in the frame of the sword teeth tiger it is usually that he will eat us... but otherwise in general we call it the submission phase, that is to say that it is the other one who won.
What's going on? Now we're still experiencing this physiological stress in our body, but it's become psychological. I'll explain.
Today's stress
We're doing the process again, but these days.
Let's imagine the starting position. You're at work. It's all right. You're doing your job. Quiet day.
Disturbing element: your boss comes yelling at you. That's the source of stress!
So you're going to the escape stage. You could run away and get better, but a priori in front of your boss you can't run. It's not like that at work. As a result you are forced to go into the fight phase.
You arrive in the struggle, again our two solutions. You're upset but you can't really fight and get mad at your boss. It's not working. So what are you doing? You're pissing yourself in your head, you keep this for yourself and you're going to the next step that is submission.
And then you submit to the boss. It's "yes boss you're right." Except that little by little, you've noticed that this stress isn't being evacuated at all. That is to say that this desire to flee, this struggle, this energy that we have in us is not evacuated since it comes to end in submission. And little by little, actually, by repeating these situations, we're going to store up a lot of stress.
It is this overdose of stress that is not evacuated which makes that gradually one can end in burn-out or even in depression. And this process, this cycle, is even more developed in hypersensitive people because, you know, the engueulade by the boss will be experienced even more intensely. As a result, you will want to be even bigger, the fight even bigger, and the stress stored by all this (this stress circuit) is even greater.
Release from stress when hypersensitive
So how can we try to break this cycle?
One solution that is regularly mentioned is to note that we are not obliged to escape or fight and fight against certain situations. That is, trying to break the thing. If I don't need to run, I'm not going to the next step and it's better.
Otherwise a second thing that allows you to break all this a little is to manage to relate to the trigger element. Here, relativize on the boss who's yelling at us. To think it's not necessarily that bad. He's not gonna fire us for that. Try to reduce the emotional load of the triggering event a little bit so that gradually the stress cycle starts less, or the stress is much less. If the boss didn't come and yell at us or if the boss comes and yells, but we don't care about it, it won't make us more stressed than that. So then I don't say that we don't have to stress when the boss screams, but there are some situations where, maybe, we're too intensifying stress inside and that it could be lived in a lighter way.
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