If you are Gifted and Highly Sensitive Person, you have certainly already felt this desire to be alone. It's a need to be alone even! Except when you tell your people, they take it wrong. They feel responsible. Sometimes even they get upset and don't understand.
As a result, I was even more tense, and I wanted to be even more alone. I have put together in this video some key elements that will allow you to explain it smoothly and in three minutes.
My name is Paul, and my high potential was detected more than ten years ago now. Today I share what I learned on my blog Connect The Dots to help the new ones.
NB: This article is the transcript of the video above
Hyperempathy
Before we start, let me tell you a little story. This is Marie. Mary is a sponge with feelings.
Every day, she absorbs the feelings of her friends and the world around her. We call it hyperempathy and hypersensitivity. These are two qualities that the gifted ones have.
And at the same time, she analyses everything she feels. His brain's rolling.
By force, Mary was not well. She's too full of feelings.
The only solution is a good spin.
Well, the gifted people... it's kind of like Mary. They have a brain that rotates 24 hours a day. They think of everything and analyze everything around them. In parallel, this brain is constantly fed by hyperstimulation to the outside world. They're hypersensitive people. And they also sometimes need a spin.
The need for time to die of hypersensitive people
Moreover, a recent scientific study proved for the first time that, With equal emotional loads, hypersensitive people took much longer to evacuate (this emotional charge). Actually, our brains aren't resting.
So if you sometimes need to be alone and want to be dead, it's not because you're not loved, because you're upset, or because you're inventing problems.
In fact, if we want a dead time, it's because we have a full brain. We're a little oversensitive hangover. We need time out of stimulation for our brain to digest everything he's stored so far. And it's also so that you can get back together. Now we're full. We need to evacuate a little, and then we'll get better.
It's not really like sports fatigue. It's closer to intellectual fatigue. She happens in a lot of occasions. I remember above all that, for me, it happened and during family holidays or at other times when the schedule was not necessarily optimized for my needs but rather for the general needs of the group and everyone.
Some rules to protect yourself as hypersensitive
Overall, if you are in situations like this where it can happen, here are some rules that should allow you to live the moments with a little more serenity.
Already, avoid overpopulated places, whether they are strangers like in a demonstration or family in a large meal. Really, the world is tiring. In fact, our brain is very active in social relations. So he's tired after.
Then avoid noisy places such as bars, be in front of concerts, the edge of big roads or areas of activity.
Be careful also in short nights. We're just like everyone else, and lack of sleep really doesn't make history go forward.
What you should definitely prefer is to make regular quiet moments. It could be on the nap hour. Either you're going to take a nap or just take half an hour at an hour when you're a little alone to read, take a bath, do whatever you want. The lid must be opened regularly before it explodes.
And finally, take some nature walks. For me it's really the top: the forest walks, the river. Things like that I love! And it really feels good.
Thank you all for staying through. If you still have three minutes and you are interested in the subject, I invite you to read my article which will explain the great the basics of the functioning of High Intellectual Potential in three minutes. See you!
